In order to begin the healing process, it is essential that all family members’ thoughts and feelings be taken into consideration.
Should I hide my marital conflict from my child?
- Avoid heated discussions and arguments when your child is present.
- Don’t involve her in disagreements between you and your spouse.
- Isolate yourself from your spouse if you feel that an argument is about to happen.
- Remain calm when you have been angered in front of your child.
- Discuss grown-up matters in private.
- Continue to respect and value your spouse’s opinions and views.
- Assure your child that people can disagree and still love each.
How do I communicate with my child about relationship issues?
- Keep the lines of communication open between both parents and child.
- Allow her to voice concerns and fears.
- Assure her that she will always be loved and the conflict is not her fault.
- Avoid making her feel as if she must “choose sides”.
Will my child need help coping during this difficult time?
- Monitor any behavioral changes during this period.
- Speak with a school guidance counselor if the situation is overly stressful.
- Talk about her feelings and concerns about any changes in the family structure.
- Attempt to engage in activities as a family to ensure her that her parents still love and care about each other.
- Encourage her to keep a journal or to openly communicate with both parents.
- Model appropriate ways to care for and respect a family member.
How can I resolve marital conflict?
- Communicate with your spouse when conflict or disagreements occur.
- Consider the effects that bitter conflicts will have on your child.
- Try to respect each other’s feelings and beliefs.
- Avoid name-calling and put-downs.
- Support each other in spite of any differences of opinions.
- Schedule activities that both parents enjoy.
- Demonstrate teamwork and a commitment to preserving the family.
- Compliment your spouse.
- Appreciate the strengths that your partner contributes to the family.
- Accept your spouse and love them for the person that they are.
- Seek professional counseling if marital issues cannot be independently resolved.